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It depends on you and situation. Personally since most confrontations are fueled by emotions especially anger or sadness i would first identify my feelings and behavior that upset me. This way I can figure out if i'm just having a bad day and I'm upset or if the person actually did something wrong. It also helps me figure out the facts and see what I need to tell the person when I confront them by figuring out what they did that upset me.
Explanation:
A query join used within a single table is Inner join
Because of federalism under the reserved powers clause; anything not stated as a responsibility of the federal government by the constitution (enumerated powers) is basically a power of the states/local government- the 10th amendment.