I think that this is something everyone has a different opinion on. It's not based around one thing. Someone may value trustworthiness most, while others may value loyalty, humility, humor, affection, etc. There's many possible answers to this.
Absorb- take in or soak up (energy, or a liquid or other substance) by chemical or physical action, typically gradually.
anxiety- a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease.
bafflement- confuse, bewilder, or perplex.