it's ok. things always get better. i don't have much context on the problem you're having or why you were slandered for "sobbing" (a normal, natural human reaction to stress), but anyways, ignore negativity to the best of your ability. School work can be hard and excessive. sometimes school gives us too much and mental breakdowns are sure to happen, but never give up on doing it because you're smart, and you're capable of anything :)
No, she is not handicapped. She is the one running the Handicapper General. As she probably sets herself as the standard, she likely sees herself as equal and doesn't give herself handicaps.
Obedience and control is a recurring theme of Henrik Ibsen’s A Doll’s House. The line in this excerpt from act 1 of the play reflects this theme is: "My little songbird must never do that again. A songbird must have a clean beak to chirp with--no false notes!"