My impressions of the narrator in "The Raven," is that the narrator is had kind of lost it. He's mad in the head. That is my impression of the narrator because in the poem he spent an awfully long while being thrilled with the fact that someone knocked on his door. Only to open the door to nothing more but darkness.
I do believe those are correct.
Answer:
There is no important person. Both people are important to each other.
Yes, you should consider their feelings if its involving them. If it has nothing to do with your partner you can ask them for their opinions on your decision and then you can start choosing from there