“Who do you get into the most conflict with in your life? If you had to use one word to describe how you behave in conflict situ
ations with this person, what would it be? Why? If you had to describe one word to describe how the other person behaves in conflict situations with you, what would it be? Why? Do you think the other person would agree with these words? Why or why not?”
Once upon a time, this person was my sister (and best friend). We have very different personalities and would frequently find ourselves in disagreement. In conflict situations, I would either avoid her or argue with her... and I have come to regret innumerable arguments. One word to describe how I behaved is 'defensively' (and another is probably 'regrettably').
She often behaved rather apologetically afterwards, but during the arguments the best way to describe her behaviour would be 'obdurate'. This of course impeded communication.
I think she would mostly agree. We have passed those times of incessant conflict, but we are also less close than we were then.
In these conflicts I behave very carefully. I behave careful because I don't want to make them upset or say something I will come to regret. I think other would agree because most people in my life know that I try my best to think before I speak even in situations of conflict
