3.In "In my mom's shoes", the mother's shoes represent Chow's grief and her memories of her mother to her. In the lines 'It's easy to remember her wearing these shoes — and not for yachting. They were as much a part of her look as her wry grin and the way she'd try to wink but instead only be able to blink both eyes.
4.“This is the complicated, ugly thing about grief. ... How do paragraphs 10-14 contribute to Chow's depiction of grief? That she is filled with rage for what he is saying about her mother and how he saying greifs not real.