I'm pretty sure it's the first one because in Fish Cheeks she is embarrassed on what her mom cooked and is too worried on what Robert thinks .She is constantly complaining. Plus she say "Shabby Chinese Christmas". in the beginning of Broken Chain it says in the second sentence he hated the way he looked
That it's not the object itself that is good or bad. It's whoever THINKS it to be good or bad. Such as the Bible can be interpreted to mean what is convenient to you, but not what is truly meant of the Bible.
