I'm not sure if these are the examples you're looking for but you got pseudo listening, stage-hogging, selective listening, insulated listening, defensive listening, ambushing, and insensitive listening.
A time I fell victim to ineffective listening was when I was explaining to a family member about something that had been going on in my life recently. As they began to give advice I'd realized they were only hearing selectively and used what I said and what it came to what they chose not to hear they made up a story in their head. The barrier present was that they were focused on something else other than what I had to say. The result was a lecture to the person and bad advice.
