The phrase "soft like women" shows that the men of Umuofia have changed and become less masculine. Okonkwo is proud of his clan and the strength of his people. However, when he returns things have fallen apart. They are no longer the clan he once knew which deeply saddens him. The men are initially described as warlike but then in the same sentence described as being like women. This change disgusts Okonkwo.
the best way to understand a movie in an unfamiliar language is to analyze what the characters reactions to certain issues/ problems and to observe their expression. Body language is another way to understand a movie in a different language
