Question

Charlie and charlotte are learning to ski. every time she falls, charlotte says, "this is the most humiliating experience i've ever had! everyone is watching me behave like a clumsy dolt!" when charlie falls he says, "well, that sure isn't the way to turn on these things, i'd better try another way." why is charlotte more likely than charlie to give up?

Answer 1

I believe the answer is: She is focusing on performance

The most common mistakes that beginners make when learning new things is that they're expecting to be able to do what the professionals able to do right from the start.

So, rather than focusing on steps that improve their basic, they tend to focus on advance skills in order to look good during performance. This will directly set them up to failure because they imposed unrealistic expectation for themselves.