<em>Seeking first to understand, then to be understood</em>
Explanation:
<em>Seek first to understand, then to be understood </em>is the fifth habit Stephen Covey lists in his book <em>The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.</em><em> </em>He believes that to be the key to effective interpersonal communication. According to him, most people first want to be understood; to get their point across. That may lead to ignoring the other person completely, selectively listening while just waiting for a chance to reply, without any intent to truly understand. Before giving our opinion, we should listen carefully and try to understand the other person. As, according to Covey, many people don't have this habit, we can often hear someone (especially the youth) say that no one understands how they feel.
B. You can be used as both. Here is an example. "You said you wanted this bear, so I got it for you." You is used as both a subject and object pronoun.
