It's avail, avail means make use of
Well I don't know if this is three ways but this is what I know. when there is conflict and the child gets mad and blocks you out "You as in the adult" they realize after a while that with out you they would have nothing that they have now and that they wouldn't even be here and life with out you would be bad and lonely and hard to work with so then the child will think positively about what he or she has and be thankful for it and that builds a positive relationship off of a negative conflict :) . I know this from my own experiences so I hope that what I know is a help to you and if its not that's ok
Answer:
(of an argument or reaction) directed against a person rather than the position they are maintaining.
"vicious ad hominem attacks"
Explanation:
ADVERB
in a way that is directed against a person rather than the position they are maintaining.
"these points come from some of our best information sources, who realize they'll be attacked ad hominem"
in a way that relates to or is associated with a particular person.
"the office was created ad hominem for Fenton"
