I believe it I mean, they have a point. I want(desire) my family and friends to live, but if I didn't then I would not suffer the loss. Another example, I was once really close to winning a Mario Kart tournament among friends and I lost because this one guy threw a blue shell at me and the reward for winning was 10bucks from each of us. I wanted (desired) that cash, and I got upset because I didn't win and then had to pay up to the winner. But it's fine, I didn't stay upset for long just a minute or two as the realization I lost set in. No point in pondering your losses when you can look towards your future victories.
It is ironic because nobody believed that the ship could sink or crash, but the Titanic did sink and is still at the bottom of the Atlantic Ocean today