Jonas' most defining characteristic would likely be his resilience and will to not give up and pass the power onto Gabriel. Though the trip away from their community was rough, he kept at it. Even passing on some memories of warmth and happiness to Gabriel to keep him warm.
I think this more like adding a dry tea bag in water. When you add a dry tea bag in water it come out wet so this means that the more you get to know about a woman the more things you will find out about her