Self-management is simply the act or method, way, e.t.c. in controlling behavior and a controlled behavior.it occurs when a individual engages in a behavior at one time to control the occurrence of another behavior (target behavior) at a later or another time.
To Control a behavior is the engagement of behavior that is involve/engaged in to influence the future occurrence of the controlled behavior.Type of Self-Management Strategies includes goal-settings and self-Monitoring,Behavioral Contracting, Arranging Reinforcers and Punishers and Social Support.
I am not sure what the conflict is, but a good way to address potental conflict is to figure out how or why the conflict is arising and find a way to fix it.