Question

Dilemma: You are very angry at your old friend. You argued and he/she said some bad thing to you. Your feelings were hurt and you won't forgive your friend
easily. He/she is your friend since you were little kids and your friendship is
important to you. What do you do?

1. What is the dilemma?

2. Identify the contradicting values.

3. What would you do?

Answer 1

Answer: The delimma is that you're angry with your childhood friend because of what they said to you. But being their childhood friend as well, you don't want to lose their friendship. Its your feelings versus your friendship with your friend. The thing to do is to cool off and get to a point where you are ready to forgive them.

Explanation:

It is never easy getting into an argument with someone close to you, especially with someone you've known since you were kids. But lets face it: Forgiveness isn't just about them, it is about you too. And in the end, if you don't forgive them, you're also hurting yourself. Grudges help none, they only hurt you. But at the same time, you should not just immediately forgive them either. Don't hold a grudge, but don't just let them do it again either. Be smart about it without coming off cruel.