The first quotation that links womanhood and Scout's exploration of her femininity could be, "'You mean women in Alabama can't-?' I was indignant." The second is, "'Finch women aren't interested in that sort of people.' 'Aun-ty,' said Jem, 'she ain't nine yet.'" And the third can be "'You know she's not used to girls,' said Jem, 'lestways, not girls like you. She's trying to make you a lady. Can't you take up sewin' or somethin'?'"
A simile is a figure of speech that is used to say that one thing is "like" or "as" another thing (e.g., is as cool as a cucumber, is as brave as a lion, is crazy like a fox ).