On page 323, it showed that Ares wasn't sure of the answers that Percy was asking him. Ares is a god of war, so everything he does, he does in full confidence, however in this case he struggles to answer the question.
There are two people holding on to the edge of a cliff. One is your mother, one is your grandfather. The cliff is weak under the three of you so you only have time to save one person. Who would you save? I would try to figure out who is more at risk, and I would consider the condition of both my mother and my grandfather. In the end I would either try to save both and risk the death of all three of us, or save my mother who is young and healthy.
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