Answer:  In my life I've experienced a loss that has  
  been traumatic for me which can also be for most  
 people. One night, in November I was having a  
movie night with my four kids and husband when
around eight o'clock I suddenly got a phone call that  
changed my life forever. On the other line was a  
family member of my brother's girlfriend. I could hear the tone of sadness in her voice as she explained to me that both my brother and his girlfriend had died in a car accident.
I was so in disbelief that I hung up the  
 phone and I called my brother over and over  
 and over again. He didn't pick up which was surreal because he always answered when I called him. At that moment I thought to myself that maybe he really was gone. After the incident  it took me years to  
overcome the pain that I felt in my heart.
The memories of our childhood and the things that happened to us growing up only reminded me of the pain.
 
We had our good times and bad times but one thing I knew was that we would always have each other.
 His loss felt so heartbreaking that it affected me physically and mentally. I stayed in bed for  
   weeks and those weeks turned into months. It made me think that this pain would never end, but deep down inside I knew that I needed to learn how to deal with the pain rather than trying to get rid of it.
My brother, someone that I truly loved and grew up with was a part of my life that I didn't want to lose.
He was my sunshine  and was always there for me. He was the light that made my darkness disappear.
Ever since the our grandmother Irene, which was the person who raised us passed away, it always Felt like we only had each other because of the fact that both our parents were in prison and were never truly involved in our lives.
So it felt like it was my job to pay for all  
the awake cost and prepare everything  
 which was getting my brother  
cremated. It was hard but with the help of  
my husband I knew that I would get it done the  
way my brother would have wanted it to be.
  My brother would have approved of how it    
 all looked. He was always someone I could talk  
  to. He was a backbone for me and was also my  
  husband's best friend. They grew up together  
  they loved each other. I was so depressed  
  when I lost him. He had a way about him that  
  could really light up the midnight sky.
  I was depressed and crying all the time. I knew  
  if my brother could be here he would tell me  to
  stop being crying and to carry on with my life.  
   My Nieces, nephews, and children knew that if  
   he was still he'd tell me to not cry for him that he's in a better place now. It was so hard but I ended  
  up little-by-little getting out of bed, going to the  
  meetings and trying my best to not think about  
  the pain I felt in my heart on a constant basis.  
  But the one way that I overcame the pain was  
 by going to the meeting of Jehovah's witnesses,  
 studying the Bible, and learning what the  
 scriptures had to say about death.
 I knew that one day I would see him again; I  
  knew in my heart that one day I would give him  
 a hug and tell him how much I missed him.  
 Until then I had to live with the pain of missing
 him, but learning to rely on my husband,
 family, and friends taught me that I could deal  
 with pain in a way I thought I could never deal  
 with so I can thank them for being a listening  
 ear and for being a shoulder to cry on.
They never once turned a their backs on me.  
 They always stayed there listening to me  
 whether it was good day or bad day; They listened  
 to the pain that I was feeling and gave me
 hugs and talked to me or even just stood there  
 by my side and listened which I really truly  
 appreciated. Now I can say that I feel so much  
 better and I don't feel so sad anymore but for  
 anyone who does lose a brother or a loved one that 
 i'm truly sorry and I pray to my god for them so  
 they can continue to live life in a good healthy
 way.
Explanation: I rewrote a couple of sentences so that i'd make better sense. Hope this helps you.