The expression "load mother up" refers to a concept of overload, of filling the mother with concerns that are greater than her ability to cope. For this reason, we can say that in the phase shown above, this expression means "Give mother more than she can handle".
The speaker of this sentence is concerned with the burden that the mother has been receiving through problems that other people can solve, but they do not try and end up throwing everything at the mother.
Honor and respect go hand in hand. You receive something due to you being honored, you are also receiving respect for the fact that you did something to earn it.
