The flower if drank, made those not want to go home to their families, but they want to. The flower makes them do things they dont want to, this is like alcohol or drugs. People take them and they may do things they dont want to, they have to control.
I think that as a parent, I would be fair, but not to strict. I feel that applying discipline is necessary when being a parent, or you might turn out with spoiled little brats.
personally no no body really is willing to learn the difference between an academically good student and a bad one is there interest to learn