Question

Why do i always hurt the people i love the most

Answer 1

Answer:

Explanation:

i think when you love someone your brain might be relaxed and does not detected the stuff that was annoying to other thats what i think

Answer 2

Answer:

You always hurt people you love the most

Explanation:

You always hurt people you love the most because you express your anger through anger without realizing this. When you are angry, you might feel like you want to explode at the whole world. During these times, you are feeling hurt. Sometimes you might even hurt others without realizing it, or you might hurt others intentionally. Instead of bottling up your anger or exploding at someone, you can express your anger productively. Calm yourself down and work on understanding your anger and other emotions. Then you can communicate your anger in an assertive manner that will be less likely to hurt the other person.

It might also be because you were being honest but was hurting them because they felt someway about you and they felt as if you never loved them back. People disagree about meaningful and trivial matters on a daily basis. Sometimes you know if you speak your mind you will upset someone. However, you often must express your opinion even if you know others will disagree. By choosing your words carefully you can avoid a long-term offense.

Sometimes, it can be because you never said you loved them and never asked them about what they think or never listened to them. If you want to help them without hurting them, you would have to put yourself in their shoes. Always control what you say and if it slipped out, try saying something good about what you said.

Express your perspective as opinion, not fact. Even if you know the facts back you up, this shows you value their perspective. If they have an open mind, facts will change their perspective. If they do not have an open mind, facts will feel like personal attacks. They have a right to be incorrect. Let them come to the truth on their own terms, not yours. Forcing your perspective is an easy way to hurt feelings.  

Don't take the disagreement personally. Keep in mind being honest is not the same as being right. You can be honest and factually wrong at the same time. You can also be honest, factually right, and still hurt feelings. Be humble with your perspective. Listen to others' justifications for their perspectives and resist the urge to convert them to your perspective.

Identify the source of the difference of opinion. Try to understand what your opinion is based on. Then try to understand what their opinion is based on. Some disagreements are based on fundamental political, religious, and moral beliefs. Knowing those bases you can be respectful of the opinion and avoid hurt feelings.

Pay attention to verbal and bodily cues. If the discussion is turning heated, stop. Chances are that you are about to hurt their feelings if you haven't already. Let them know you respect and value them.

Thank them for sharing and listening. This gives you an opportunity to end the difference of opinion on a positive note. Be sure to comment that you understand where they are coming from and hope they understand your perspective too.

Maybe you always had work and was never able to be around them. If you feel as if your job is taking up all your time, quit. Try doing something you love with them.

I've been through all of this. But, I made it work. You see, when people feel a type of way, they don't speak it.