The older the child becomes more identified with the father, which is a normal course of development. Such development is a condition for strengthening self-awareness, but also independence, not only from the mother, but from her own unconscious. Both parents are necessary for the development of awareness and individuation.
The influence of mothers and fathers on the upbringing of children after several centuries of maternal influence is almost equalized in families today. The father plays an equally important role as the mother. Many psychologists agree that the form of co-parenting is better, more successful and more natural than the earlier way, when the mother's influence was superior.
It is not difficult to assume that a relationship full of respect and love between parents ensures that the child is properly identified with both the mother and father.
