Question

Both examples below illustrate which element of the assertive message format? example 1: "yesterday, kristopher promised me he would stop coming over to my house without calling first. today, he stopped by without clearing it with me." example 2: "carla hasn't been asking me to join her for lunch, like she usually does. she also hasn't been hanging out much outside of her office, and hasn't returned any of my emails that weren't directly related to work."

Answer 1

Both of these examples are illustrative of the "behavior" element of the assertive message format. These example are objective in that they only outlined what happened in a given situation. Although the second may appear to have an emotional connotation, it simply gives an objective impression of what happened.