This is of course somewhat of a subjective question, but in general many would believe that the United States should be praised for the military strategy of "Europe First".
She was expected to give her job up to a man coming home and go back to being a housewife esentialy
I would most possibly do the same thing, or take the south back to US as brothers, but I might also add a little punishment. The punishment would be limited import for a period of years (1, or 5). I would also not allow them to vote or participate in any political meeting, congressional decisions, etc.
Hope this helps, you might have a different opinion however, but as I think, it would be better to punish them for
1. Not obeying the rules (still having slavery)
2. Electing a secondary president.
3. Helping the war happen.
4. Trying to become independent from the rest of US.
