The people that settle in life and are lazy don’t have a decision in life because they put no effort into it.
Residing is for the dead bc they payed the ultimate price to be able to. They cannot make life decisions bc they r dead. The people waiting and wanting to settle in life want it so bad they lose the capability of making their own decisions because they are stuck in their choices and have to wait it out till the end. However people that can and do make their OWN decisions don’t always make the right ones and end up residing(dying) even though they were able to make their OWN choices. So...
You may take a path you know others have taken and became successful, or you can make your OWN decisions and take a different route. The path you may WANT to take might not work for you and neither could the path you saw others take. Therefore this world is a place where actions do not match solution(s)
