In relationships we sometimes assume our partner shares the same boundaries as we do. Especially if we are honest with each othe
r and share almost everything else. How would you feel if your partner crossed one of your boundaries?
What if they believed that you should get used to it, or should simply be okay with it since you are in a dating relationship?
Is there a way to have this conversation that will lead to identifying each person’s boundaries, and respecting them?
What if you have to redefine your boundaries with your partner or friend? For example, you may be okay with a friend grabbing to borrow your pencil or pen without asking, but not your phone. Can you help describe another situation using any of the Personal Boundaries in which you may have to redefine. How can you do this? How can you respond if your friend or partner is the one who needs to redefine their personal boundaries?
if my partner crossed one of my boundaries i would have a civil conversation with them and ask why they did that.
tell them that it wasn't ok and that you wont except it.
just have a conversation about the boundaries that you guys want set for the relationship.
you could put a password on your phone and tell them to not go on your phone without your permission, have your phone on you at all times or hide it when you don't need it.
par: Refers to the number of strokes a golfer is expected to need to complete the play of one hole on a golf course. A player makes a “birdie” when he uses one fewer strokes than the par of the hole. If a player needs one stroke more than par to finish a hole, he makes a “bogey.” So, if you finish a par 4 with only 3 strokes, you make a “birdie”, but if you take 5 strokes to complete a par 4, you make a “bogey”.