When movies and television shows depict scenes of soldiers on the frontier, they should include African American actors. African American regiments frequently were sent into the Southwest and Great Plains, the most famous of which would be the Buffalo Soldiers. The Buffalo Soldiers were member of all-African American cavalry regiments who partook in many of the battle during the Indian Wars in the mid- to late-1800s.
He meant that in order for him (a man) to show his inner self worth and capabilities, he need to has a suitable woman that able to draw it our of him.
This longing for suitable woman is the one that make him unable to form a commitment when he jump from one woman to another in order to pursue the perfect match