Jot down ,because it gives you a visual of what you are doing before you movie to the final draft.
I believe the answer is: criticism
By making criticism, we could expose our partner on his/her weaknesses and focusing on that weakness to evoke a certain negative emotion. By doing this, the focus of their discussion could be strayed from our own weakness/insecurities and could be used to avoid responsibility when we're in a fight with our partner.
I think it’s 2, I’m so sorry if I’m wrong tho lol