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Yes abuse is a choice and it can be either mentally, physically or emotionally. People choose to abuse someone if they wanted to but some people have mental disorders and they sometimes do and its not really their whole fault.
Clean living environment. Only fortune and opportunities can determine that, while you yourself can control the other two.
The parent might put the child in a club so the child can get used to helping others or being help which will help the child's self-esteem
Preparing it with oil or grilled could change