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1)If the violence causes the death of everyone who is on its way, then gender does make a difference: for example in riots, such as religiously motivated riots, both men and women can die.
2) Men and women can experience different kinds of violence. For example during the Bosnian war the men were killed and the women were victims of sexual violence.