As they are traveling in opposite directions you need to do 50 + 40 to find out how far apart they travel every hour. 50 + 40 = 90. So you know that they are 90 miles apart every hour. 180 / 90 = 2. so you know that it takes them 2 hours to be 180 miles apart.
Just truely be open about your feelings, don't try and sugarcoat it, or leave things out, just be honest with her and tell her straight up, politely of course.