<span>The crusades were a series of holy wars called by popes with the promise of indulgences for those who fought in them and directed against external and internal enemies of Christendom for the recovery of Christian property or in defense of the Church or Christian people.
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no. never has been. never will be
He meant that in order for him (a man) to show his inner self worth and capabilities, he need to has a suitable woman that able to draw it our of him.
This longing for suitable woman is the one that make him unable to form a commitment when he jump from one woman to another in order to pursue the perfect match