protons and electrons are both always the atomic number which is 9 in this case.
For neutrons you subtract the atomic number (9) from the weight of the atom (18.998) some teachers will want you to round to the nearest whole (19). We do this because the number of protons is the atomic number so if you subtract the protons from the whole weight of the atom you would have the electrons and neutrons left. Since electrons weigh so little we don't have to subtract them. Weighing neutrons and electrons would be like weighing an elephant (neutrons) and then putting one marshmallow on the scale (electron).
The answer is (2) equal to. In redox reactions, you can't just lose electrons somewhere. If an electrons is lost by one, it must be gained by another. Hence, the importance of balancing redox reactions.
