The metaphor uses by Paul is adoption. It is stated in the bible specifically in new testament king James version, it stated – Romans 8: 15 The Spirit you received does not make you slaves so that you live in fear again; l rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him, we cry, “Abba, Father.”
That is the metaphor all about.
The answer is, Millie is experiencing "Acceptance stage of the Kübler-Ross model".
Acceptance refers to the last stage of the Kübler-Ross model. This stage is tied in with tolerating the truth that our loved one is physically gone and perceiving this truth is the changeless reality. We will never like this reality or make it OK, however in the end we acknowledge it. We figure out how to live with it. It is the new standard with which we should figure out how to live.
I believe that it is true. Many African Americans were arrested for not following draft notices that they never got from land owners.