Self-actualization in Maslow's terms was when a human reaches their fullest potential regarding all of the needs provided on the pyramid. It represents their growth to this their highest, fullest potential.
There is a number of things you could do you but the best thing you could do is to leave the situation and go get help. You should avoid getting into it because that could just make it worse same goes with being defensive. I hope this helps!
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leaving with out people can not bring success in life because no one without you you can learn what is life